My Husband

I knew when I met him that he was an amazing guy. He read my mind, was considerate, and made many efforts (even before we were dating) to be thoughtful and courteous. Then we started dating, and it got even better. Then we got engaged, and I knew I was getting quite the prize. Of course, after we got married, all my feelings were solidified, and there was no doubt in my mind that I Have the best husband (sorry, ladies!)

I have seen the example his parents have set, (his dad taking a tray of soup and crackers to his mom one evening because she wasn't feeling well), and I have seen how much love and support there is among his extended family (a family fast for an aunt with melanoma that had metastasized to her brain that, after the family fast, had completely cleared). I have seen his interaction with members of our Faith, and members of other faiths. I have seen his interaction with the elderly, married, single, teenagers, youth, children and infants.

He talks with me- a lot. We talked for hours (never on the phone!) while we were dating and engaged. We had a 40-minute commute each way to work/school while we lived in Houston, and we would spend that time, and after during the evenings, just talking: politics, world events, church callings, missionary work, family (our own and extended), and a myriad of other politics.

Then we had children. Nope, that didn't change much (other than we had less time to talk). He still was thoughtful, helpful, attentive, and loving- towards me and our daughters as they came along.

The biggest change, and I think the hardest one for me, was when I quit working and we moved to South Bend. No more 40-minute commutes to talk. Two and then three kids, so I wasn't up for much snuggling or talking when he got home from his 12+ hour work days. He didn't change, but my role did, and I was having a hard time adjusting to the fact that I couldn't rely on him before as I had (regarding household work). I had to come to the realization that he needed to stay longer at the Lab, and I needed to buck up and take on the expectation that all household chores were now my responsibility. That attitude improve things dramatically. So has cutting back on my TV time so we have more time to talk in the evenings.

His relationship with his daughters, although shifting in that he has less time, also has the same quality as before- one of a supportive, attentive, loving, fun dad, who still maintains discipline and supports his wife completely.

He is amazing. I am awed that he wanted to marry me- and I'm so glad that he asked! I love the family we have built together, and I am looking forward to tonight, tomorrow, and all the other days that come our way together.

I had originally planned this post to be one about how Travis is so good to take the girls outside- in the mornings (now that the temperature is no longer freezing) he grabs a Frisbee, Zoë, Miranda and sometimes Megan and they play outside until the Bus comes. (Miranda has a great fascination and excitement in spotting buses). You can see where that thought process led- maybe that and the fact that he did the dishes last night.

Yep, I really have the most amazing husband.